Por ella supe este fin de semana pasado de la existencia de un video, emitido por una cadena de televisión de Holanda en el que una familia de este país con dos hijas nacidas en China es puesta en conocimiento (y contacto virtual vía videos) con la familia biológica de la hija mayor. Este video lo he “capturado” y editado en dos partes (youtube no deja más diez minutos) y podéis verlo a continuación. La traducción del holandés al inglés de los diálogos del mismo está más abajo y también están tomados de un correo de la lista de AFAC.
Quiero comentar que me ha resultado emotivo en extremo y que me ha hecho pensar mucho en la familia biológica de mis hijas y sobre todo me ha impresionado la actitud, el gesto y el dolor que refleja el padre biológico. Cuando comentamos sobre este tema en distintos ámbitos siempre se habla principalmente de la madre biológica y yo también me he referido a ella en otras ocasiones, pero es la primera vez que veo la tristeza y la pena en el rostro de un hombre, el padre biológico para el que la separación de esa niña que ve nacer en la intimidad de su casa y con la que vive un tiempo, se hace desgarradora y sus lágrimas así lo reflejan.
A church in Noord-Holland (province), a couple of weeks ago. We meet
Eline is an altar girl and searching for her Chinese parents. For a
of years now she has been asking her Dutch parents about her roots.
was born in the surroundings of Chongqing.
Here she was abandoned shortly after her birth. The first months of
she stayed with a Chinese foster family.
Then she is adopted by a Dutch couple. Eline grows op with Anneli.
7 years old and she is from another part of China. She is also a
The children form a family with their mother Wilma and their father
also has Asian blood.
A-Father: It's not very obvious that they are adoptive children in
so they mingle in and don't arouse questions of the public. Now and
there is a remark: you are Chinese, well, that's right.
Interviewer: Eline is now 10 years old, what kind of child is she?
A-Mother: She's a delightful child. On one hand she is a little
She is a child who asks many questions about the past, about the why,
couldn't I stay there, why did I have to go, but on the other hand,
she is a
very inquisitive child, also a cautious person, but she does embrace
That is very good; when she gives herself then she gives herself 100%.
The two children are very content, but Eline repeatedly asks
Interviewer: What kind of questions does she have?
A-Mother: Why did I have to go? Where are they? I don't have a
them, what will they look like? Did they love me? Why wasn't I
Interviewer: And she asked those questions of you.
A-Mother: Yes, mainly of me.
Interviewer: And what was your answer then?
A-Mother: I have always said: sweetheart, if you had stayed there,
would have loved you enormously, because I can't imagine that they
have loved you. But we also explained to her that they could only
child there and that the chances are that she has more brothers or
Or that her parents were poor and if they have several children, it
not have been possible for you to stay with them.
Interviewer: How does she react to that?
A-Mother: She does understand, but you have been relinquished. It
difficult. It is an answer, but deep in your heart you just want to be
Voiceover: Indirectly Jim and Wilma gain contact with a Chinese woman
comes from Chongqing, where Eline was abandoned. She spontaneously
search for the biological parents of Eline.
Interviewer: When this search succeeds, then one day you could come
face with her Chinese parents. What will you say to them then?
A-Father: That's difficult. For one that we are happy that Eline is
There are some things that you can see from Eline, she's quite small,
have seen that, you will probably recognise that in her Chinese
well. And then we will see how the conversation develops. Then you
start building a contact. What we will ask, we will decide at the
These are the kind of things, you want to know what kind of people
to get an idea of how they live and for the rest we have to see how it
A-Mother: And I think that I would say what a beautiful daughter they
That they have a child to be very proud of.
A-Mother: Just how she is as a human being. How she is socially. You
see that with all children.
Interviewer: When Eline was abandoned they left a note with her. You
that to us. Could you read it to us?
A-Father: That's right, this is a photocopy of the original note.
translation by the way, it said.. (English)..
Eline: Hello mummy, where are you? Who are you? What's your name? Why
you leave me somewhere? Do you think I'm sweet? I miss you, do you
Greetings, Eline Kuiper, bye, I will miss you, bye, bye, I will stop,
Voiceover: We are in Chongqing, 2000 kilometre from Beijing. In
and the surroundings 32 million people live. Because of the neon
Chongqing looks like a modern western city at night.
By daylight we meet Jocelyn. She was born and raised here and works
project manager with IBM. Jocelyn managed to get the local media to
attention to the story of Eline. A local journalist even wrote several
articles about it. He did research and a couple of months ago he
Jocelyn with an amazing report.
In these surroundings, far from the city, the journalist contacted a
and his wife. The man and woman claim that they are the father and
Eline. The farming couple is willing to talk to us, but not in their
To abandon a child is of course a big taboo and that's why they would
not be seen in their own surroundings with a camera team from the
We invite the man and the woman to come to the centre of Chongqing.
doesn't attract so much attention if they have contact with us. We
meet in a
big hotel where there are a lot of Western businessmen.
Father Wen and mother Ming have two children: a daughter of 17 years
a daughter of 12 years old, Lu. She also comes. We go to a room on
floor of the hotel. Here Wen and Ming can tell their story without
B-Father: The child was born at home. And I cut the umbilical cord
Interviewer: You didn't go to the hospital
Interviewer: And there was also no family?
B-Father: No, none
Interviewer: You did it all yourself?
B-Father: Yes. When I saw the baby girl, I found her to be very
had long fingers and long toes. And she looked around immediately. So
could see her eyes. I bundled her up in cloths very well. We didn't
other people to know that she was born. We wanted to keep her for a
before relinquishing her.
Voiceover: The baby is the third child for this couple. After getting
second child, Lu, they had to pay a big fine a couple of years
they have still not been able to pay fully. Wen and Ming know that
fine is waiting for them. A fine that they can't possibly pay with
B-Mother: We wanted the child to find good fortune. We were not able
raise her. But in our heart we did want the child.
Interviewer: You abandoned the child at the police station?
Interviewer: Did you see anyone picking the child up?
B-Mother: Yes, that's why we waited.
Interviewer: You didn't walk away immediately?
Interviewer: Didn't anyone see you then?
Interviewer: Were you alone, or together?
We put her in a basket with a note with her birth date and some milk
Interviewer: What kind of basket did you have?
B-Mother: A regular basket.
We wrapped her things and clothing. And also a bottle of milk. We had
walk to the city. There was no bus. It was far and I had pain in my
didn't know it was that far. But we didn't have much choice. We could
abandon her in our own village. Everybody knows us there. I remember
walked to that place. I remember which place it was.
Voiceover: Father Wen is willing to take us to the place where the
abandoned. We follow the road they walked ten years ago. It is hours
driving on dirt roads. We end up in a place that looks very different
the modern looking Chongqing.
In the suburbs the locals go about their daily activities. There is
Here and there products are being sold. Chinese people who seem to
nothing to do, give in to another pass time: gambling.
We drive to the centre. At the father's request we film as
Then we reach the police station where the child was abandoned.
asks us to stay seated in the car. We are at the spot where Eline was
possibly abandoned 10 years ago. But are these really her biological
whom we have found?
The answer to that question comes from Amsterdam. In this laboratory
test has been carried out at request. The saliva of the Chinese
thoroughly analysed and compared with the saliva of Eline. From the
of this research, it will become apparent whether Eline is indeed the
Chinese foundling who can be put in touch with her biological
research will take a couple of weeks.
The result of the research is known now. The story of father Wen and
Ming is true. They are the biological parents of Eline.
B-Mother: What happiness! It's really a miracle that she ended up
B-Father: She is beautiful. She must have fallen on her feet.
We must be very grateful to her parents for what they have done. I
that Eline does not blame us. I feel terribly guilty.
B-Mother: I hope we will be forgiven. I really hope that.
A-Mother: I have always told her the story as they are telling it
now. My feelings always told me that it was this way.
Interviewer: They feel guilty.
A-Mother: They don't have to. They couldn't have done anything else I
Interviewer: They are also grateful to you.
A-Mother: They also don't have to be.
A-Father: We now have a beautiful daughter.
A-Mother: What is gratitude? Do the children have to be thankful to
they ended up here? Maybe she rather would have stayed there. But you
turn back time. And we are trying to give her a future here.
Interviewer: They see that too, don't they?
Eline: I miss you so, I really do. But I really have to stop now,
have to go to sleep now. I would have had to do the same if I had
with you. Bye bye, and good night.
In the meantime Eline and her sister have watched the images from
They understood what had happened.
The Chinese parents want to meet Eline and her Dutch family very much.
Jim and Wilma are planning to go to China with the children this year.